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1、Frogs into PRINCESNeuro Linguistic ProgrammingbyRichard Sandierand John Grinderedited bySteve ftndreas(formerly John O. Stevens)TM REAL PEOPLE PRESSCopyright 1979Real People PressBoxFMoab, Utah 84532ISBN: 0-911226-18-4 clothbound $11.00 ISBN: 0-911226-19-2 paperbound $7.50Cover Artwork by Elizabeth

2、Malczynski, Brooklyn, NY Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data:Sandier, Richard. Frogs into princes.“Edited entirely from audiotapes of introductoryNLP training workshops conducted by Richard Bandlerand John Grinder.“Bibliography: p.1. Psychotherapy. 2. Nonverbal communication.3. Psycho

3、linguistics. 4. Imagery (Psychology)I. Grinder, John, joint author. II. Title.RC480.5.B313 616.8914 , 79-13255ISBN 0-911226-18-4 ,;.ISBN 0-911226-19-2Other books about Neuro-Linguistic Programming from Real People Press:USING YOUR BRAIN-FORA CHANGE, by Richard Bandler. 159pp. 1985 Cloth $11.00 Paper

4、 $7.50REFRAMING: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Transformation of Meaning, by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. 220 pp. 1981 Cloth $12.00 Paper $8.50TRANCE-FORMATIONS: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Structure of Hypnosis, by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. 250 pp. 1981 Cloth $12.00 Pap

5、er $8.50CHANGE YOUR MINDAND KEEP THE CHANGE, by Steve Andreas and Connirae Andreas. 187 pp. 1987 Cloth $12.00 Paper $8.50The name Real People Press indicates our purpose; to publish ideas and ways that a person can use independently or with others to become more reallo further your own growth as a h

6、uman being and to develop your relationship and communication with others.8 9 10 Printing 93 92 91 90 89What People are saying about this book:“A readable, practical, and entertaining book about a challenging, original, and promising new discipline. I recommend it.“Dan Goleman, Associate Editor of P

7、sychology Today.“NLP represents a huge quantum jump in our understanding of human behavior and communication. It makes most current therapy and education totally obsolete.“John O. Stevens, author of Awareness and editor of Gestalt Therapy Verbatim and Gestalt is.“This book shows you how to do a litt

8、le magic and change the way you see, hear, feel, and imagine the world you live in. It presents new therapeutic techniques which can teach you some surprising things about yourself.“Sam Keen, Consulting Editor of Psychology Today and author of Beginnings Without End, To a Dancing God, and Apology fo

9、r Wonder.“How tiresome it is going from one limiting belief to another. How joyful to read Bandler and Grinder, who dont believe anything, yet use everything! NLP wears seven-league-boots, and takes therapy or personal growth far, far beyond any previous notions.“Barry Stevens, author of Dont Push t

10、he River, and co-author of Person to Person.“Fritz Peris regarded John Stevens Gestalt Therapy Verbatim as the best representation of his work in print. Grinder and Bandler have good reason to have the same regard for Frogs into Princes. Once again, its the closest thing to actually being in the wor

11、kshop.“ Richard Price, Co-founder and director of Esalen Institute.ContentsForeword by Steve Andreas (formerly John O. Stevens) i-ivA Challenge to the ReaderI Sensory Experience: 5-78Representational Systems and Accessing CuesII Changing Personal History and Organization: 79-136AnchoringIII Finding

12、New Ways: 137-193RefrainingBibliography 194ForewordI have been studying education, therapies, growth experiences, and other methods for personal change since I was a graduate student with Abe Maslow over twenty years ago. Ten years later I met Fritz Peris and immersed myself in gestalt therapy becau

13、se it seemed to be more effective than most other methods. Actually all methods work for some people and with some problems. Most methods claim much more than they can deliver, and most theories have little relationship to the methods they describe.When I was first introduced to Neuro Linguistic Pro

14、gramming I was both fascinated and very skeptical. I had been heavily conditioned to believe that change is slow, and usually difficult and painful. I still have some difficulty realizing that I can usually cure a phobia or other similar long-term problem painlessly in less than an houreven though I

15、 have done it repeatedly and seen that the results last. Everything written in this book is explicit, and can be verified quickly m your own experience. There is no hocus-pocus, and you will not be asked to take on any new beliefs. You will only be asked to suspend your own beliefs long enough to te

16、st the concepts and procedures of NLP in your own sensory experience. That wont take long; most of the statements and patterns in this book can be tested in a few minutes or a few hours. If you are skeptical, as I was, you owe it to your skepticism to check this out, and find out if the outrageous c

17、laims made in this book are valid.NLP is an explicit and powerful model of human experience and communication. Using the principles of NLP it is possible to describe any human activity in a detailed way that allows you to make many deep and lasting changes quickly and easily.A few specific examples

18、of things you can learn to accomplish are: (1) cure phobias and other unpleasant feeling responses in less than an hour, (2) help children and adults with “learning disabilities“ (spelling and reading problems, etc.) overcome these limitations, often in less than an hour, (3) eliminate most unwanted

19、 habitssmoking, drinking, over-eating, insomnia, etc., in a few sessions, (4) make changes in the interactions of couples, families and organizations so that they function in ways that are more satisfying and productive, (5) cure many physical problemsnot only most of those recognized as “psychosoma

20、tic“ but also some that are notin a few sessions.These are strong claims, and experienced NLP practitioners can back them up with solid, visible results. NLP in its present state can do a great deal, but it cannot do everything. if what weve demonstrated is something that youd like to be able to do,

21、 you might as well spend your time learning it. There are lots and lots of things that we cannot do. If you can program yourself to look for things that will be usefulfor you and learn those, instead of trying to find out where what we are presenting to you falls apart, you?ll find out where it fall

22、s apart, I guarantee you. If you use it congruently you will find lots of places that it wont work. And when it doesnt work, I suggest you do something else.NLP is only about four years old, and many of the most useful patterns were created within the last year or two.We havent even begun to figure

23、out what the possibilities are of how to use this material. And we are very, very, serious about that. What we are doing now is nothing more than the investigation of how to use this information. We have been unable to exhaust the variety of ways to put this stuff together and put it to use, and we

24、dont know of any limitations on the ways that you can use this information. During this seminar we have mentioned and demonstrated several dozen ways that it can be used. Its the structure of experience. Period. When used systematically, it constitutes a full strategy for getting any behavioral gain

25、.Actually, NLP can do much more than the kinds of remedial workentioned above. The same principles can be used to study people who “ unusually talented in any way, in order to determine the structure of that talent. That structure can then be quickly taught to others to give them the foundation for

26、that same ability. This kind of intervention results in generative change, in which people learn to generate and create new talents and behaviors for themselves and others. A side effect of such generative change is that many of the problem behaviors that would otherwise have been targets for remedi

27、al change simply disappear.In one sense nothing that NLP can accomplish is new: There have always been “spontaneous remissions,“ “miracle cures,“ and other sudden and puzzling changes in peoples behavior, and there have always been people who somehow learned to use their abilities in exceptional way

28、s.What is new in NLP is the ability to systematically analyze those exceptional people and experiences in such a way that they can become widely available to others. Milkmaids in England became immune to smallpox long before Jenner discovered cowpox and vaccination; now smallpoxwhich used to kill hu

29、ndreds of thousands annuallyis eliminated from human experience. In the same way, NLP can eliminate many of the difficulties and hazards of living that we now experience, and make learning and behavioral change much easier, more productive, and more exciting. We are on the threshold of a quantum jum

30、p in human experience and capability.There is an old story of a boilermaker who was hired to fix a huge steamship boiler system that was not working well. After listening to the engineers description of the problems and asking a few questions, he went to the boiler room. He looked at the maze of twi

31、sting pipes, listened to the thump of the boiler and the hiss of escaping steam for a few minutes, and felt some pipes with his hands. Then he hummed softly to himself, reached into his overalls and took out a small hammer, and tapped a bright red valve, once. Immediately the entire system began wor

32、king perfectly, and the boilermaker went home. When the steamship owner received a bill for $1,000 he complained that the boilermaker had only been in the engine room for fifteen minutes, and requested an itemized bill. This is what the boilermaker sent him:For tapping with hammer: .50For knowing wh

33、ere to tap: $ 999.50Total: $1,000.00What is really new in NLP is knowing exactly what to do, and how to do it. This is an exciting book, and an exciting time.Steve Andreas (formerly John O. Stevens)A Challenge to the ReaderIn mystery and spy novels, the reader can expect to be offered a series of wr

34、itten cluesfragmentary descriptions of earlier events. When these fragments are fitted together, they provide enough of a representation for the careful reader to reconstruct the earlier events, even to the point of understanding the specific actions and motivations of the people involvedor at least

35、 to reach the understanding that the author will offer at the conclusion of the novel. The more casual reader is simply entertained and arrives at a more personal understanding, of which s/ he may or may not be conscious. The writer of such a novel has the obligation to provide enough fragments to m

36、ake a reconstruction possible, but not obvious.This book is also the written record of a mystery story of sorts. However, it differs from the traditional mystery in several important ways. This is the written record of a story that was told, and story-telling is a different skill than story-writing.

37、 The story-teller has the obligation to use feedback from the listener/watcher to determine how many clues s/he can offer. The kind of feedback s/he takes into account is of two types: (1) the verbal, deliberate conscious feedback those signals the listener/watcher is aware that s/he is offering to

38、the story-teller, and (2) the non-verbal, spontaneous, unconscious feedback: the glimpse, the startle, the labored recollectionthose signals the listener/ watcher offers the story-teller without being aware of them. An important skill in the art of story-telling is to use the unconscious feedback so

39、 as to provide just enough clues that the unconscious process of the listener/watcher arrives at the solution before the listener/watcher consciously appreciates it. From such artistry come the desirable experiences of surprise and delightthe discovery that we know much more than we think we do.We d

40、elight in creating those kinds of experiences in our seminars. And while the record that follows may have contained enough clues for the participant in the seminar, only the more astute reader will succeed in fully reconstructing the earlier events. As we state explicitly in this book, the verbal co

41、mponent is the least interesting and least influential part of communication. Yet this is the only kind of clue offered the reader here.The basic unit of analysis in face-to-face communication is the feedback loop. For example, if you were given the task of describing an interaction between a cat an

42、d a dog, you might make entries like: “Cat spits, . dog bares teeth, . cat arches back,. dog barks,. cat“ At least as important as the particular actions described is the sequence in which they occur. And to some extent, any particular behavior by the cat becomes understandable only in the context o

43、f the dogs behavior. If for some reason your observations were restricted to just the cat, you would be challenged by the task of reconstructing what the cat was interacting with. The cats behavior is much more difficult to appreciate and understand in isolation.We would like to reassure the reader

44、that the non-sequiturs, the surprising tangents, the unannounced shifts in content, mood or direction which you will discover in this book had a compelling logic of their own in the original context. If these otherwise peculiar sequences of communication were restored to their original context, that

45、 logic would quickly emerge. Therefore, the challenge: Is the reader astute enough to reconstruct that context, or shall he simply enjoy the exchange and arrive at a useful unconscious understanding of a more personal nature?John Grinder Richard BandlerSensory ExperienceThere are several important w

46、ays in which what we do differs radically from others who do workshops on communication or psychotherapy. When we first started in the field, we would watch brilliant people do interesting things and then afterwards they would tell various particular metaphors that they called theorizing. They would

47、 tell stories about millions of holes, or about plumbing: that you have to understand that people are just a circle with pipes coming from every direction, and all you need is Draino or something like that. Most of those metaphors werent very useful in helping people learn specifically what to do or

48、 how to do it.Some people will do experiential workshops in which you will be treated to watching and listening to a person who is relatively competent in most, or at least part, of the business called “professional communications.“ They will demonstrate by their behavior that they are quite compete

49、nt in doing certain kinds of things. If you are fortunate and you keep your sensory apparatus open, you will learn how to do some of the things they do.Theres also a group of people who are theoreticians. They will tell you what their beliefs are about the true nature of humans and what the completely “transparent, adjusted, genuine, authentic,“ etc. person should be, but they dont show you how to do anything.Most knowledge in the