1、Learn to live in the present moment学会生活在现实中To a large degree,the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live on the present moment. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are-always
2、!我们内心是否平和在很大程度上是由我们是否能生活在现实之中所决定的不管昨天或去年发生了什么，不管明天可能发生或不发生什么，现实才是你时时刻刻所在之处 Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about variety of things-all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns dominate your present moments, so much so that
3、 we end up anxious,frustrated,depressed,and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing that someday will be much better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only
4、 repeat themselves so that someday never actually arrives. Jhon Lennone once said, Life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans. When we are busy making other plans, our children are busy growing up, the people we love are moving away and dying, our bodies are getting out of shape,
5、 and our dreams are slipping away. In short, we miss out on life.毫无疑问，我们很多人掌握了一种神经兮兮的艺术，即把生活中的大部分时间花在为种种事情担心忧虑上而且常常是同时忧虑许多事情我们听凭过去的麻烦和未来的担心控制我们此时此刻的生活，以至我们整日焦虑不安，委靡不振，甚至沮丧绝望而另一方面我们又推迟我们的满足感，推迟我们应优先考虑的事情，推迟我们的幸福感，常常说服自己有朝一日会比今天更好不幸的是，如此告戒我们朝前看的大脑动力只能重复来重复去，以至有朝一日哟贫农公元不会真的来临约翰列侬曾经说过：生活就是当我们忙于制定别的计划时发生
6、的事当我们忙于指定种种别的计划时，我们的孩子在忙于长大，我们挚爱的人里去了甚至快去世了，我们的体型变样了，而我们的梦想也在消然溜走了一句话，我们错过了生活Many people lives as if life is a dress rehearsal for some later date. It isnt. In fact, no one have a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time that we have any control
7、 over. When we put our attention on the present moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future-we wont have enoughh money,our children will get into trouble,we will get old and die,whatever.许多人的生活好象是某个未来日子的彩排并非如此事实上，没人能保证他或她肯定还活着现在是我们所拥有的唯一时间，现在也
8、是我们能控制的唯一的时间当我们将注意力放在此时此刻时，我们就将恐惧置于脑后恐惧就是我们担忧某些事情会在未来发生我们不讳有足够的钱，我们的孩子会惹上麻烦，我们会变老，会死去，诸如此类To combat fear, the best stradegy is to learn to bring your attention back to the present. Mark Twain said,I have been through some terrible things in life, some of which actually happened. I dont think I can s
9、ay it any better. Practice keeping your attention on the here and now. Your effort will pay great dividends. 若要克服恐惧心理，最佳策略是学会将你的注意力拉回此时此刻马克吐温说过：我经历过生活中一些可怕的事情，有些的确发生过我想我说不出比这更具内涵的话经常将注意力集中于此情此景，此时此刻，你的努力终会有丰厚的报偿3How High Can You Jump? Flea trainers have observed a strange habit of fleas while traini
10、ng them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again.As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting becomes obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no lon
11、ger jumping high enough to hit the top.When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They wont jump out because they cant jump out. Why? The reason is simple. They have conditioned themselves to jump just so high.Once they have conditioned themselves t
12、o jump just so high, thats all they can do!Many times, people do the same thing. They restrict themselves and never reach their potential. Just like the fleas, they fail to jump higher, thinking they are doing all they can do.跳蚤训练人在训练跳蚤时发现跳蚤有一个奇怪的习惯。若把跳蚤放在一个有顶盖的盒子里，他们会不断地跳起来，撞击顶盖。你观察他们跳起来撞击顶盖，会慢慢发现一
13、个有趣的现象。他们仍会跳起来，但不会再撞到顶盖。当你把顶盖拿开时，跳蚤还会接着跳，但却不会跳出盒子。为什么呢？原因很简单。它们已经习惯了只跳那么高。一旦它们习惯只跳这么高之后，它们就只能跳这么高了。很多时候，人们也是一样。他们自己限制了自己，从来不去发掘自己的潜力。就像跳蚤一样，没能跳得更高，还以为已经到了自己能力的极限。4热爱生活 （Love Your Life ）Henry David Thoreau/享利.大卫.梭罗However mean your life is,meet it and live it ;do not shun it and call it hard names.It
14、 is not so bad as you are.It looks poorest when you are richest.The fault-finder will find faults in paradise.Love your life,poor as it is.You may perhaps have some pleasant,thrilling,glorious hourss,even in a poor-house.The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the alms-house as brightly as
15、from the rich mans abode;the snow melts before its door as early in the spring.I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there,and have as cheering thoughts,as in a palace.The towns poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of any.May be they are simply great enough to rec
16、eive without misgiving.Most think that they are above being supported by the town;but it often happens that they are not above supporting themselves by dishonest means.which should be more disreputable.Cultivate poverty like a garden herb,like sage.Do not trouble yourself much to get new things,whet
17、her clothes or friends,Turn the old,return to them.Things do not change;we change.Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.不论你的生活如何卑贱，你要面对它生活，不要躲避它，更别用恶言咒骂它。它不像你那样坏。你最富有的时候，倒是看似最穷。爱找缺点的人就是到天堂里也能找到缺点。你要爱你的生活，尽管它贫穷。甚至在一个济贫院里，你也还有愉快、高兴、光荣的时候。夕阳反射在济贫院的窗上，像身在富户人家窗上一样光亮；在那门前，积雪同在早春融化。我只看到，一个从容的人，在哪里也像在皇宫中
18、一样，生活得心满意足而富有愉快的思想。城镇中的穷人，我看，倒往往是过着最独立不羁的生活。也许因为他们很伟大，所以受之无愧。大多数人以为他们是超然的，不靠城镇来支援他们；可是事实上他们是往往利用了不正当的手段来对付生活，他们是毫不超脱的，毋宁是不体面的。视贫穷如园中之花而像圣人一样耕植它吧！不要找新的花样，无论是新的朋友或新的衣服，来麻烦你自己。找旧的，回到那里去。万物不变，是我们在变。你的衣服可以卖掉，但要保留你的思想。5父爱和母爱Motherly and Fatherly LoveMotherly love by its very nature is unconditional. Mothe
19、r loves the newborn infant because it is her child, not because the child has fulfilled any specific condition, or lived up to any specific expectation. Unconditional love corresponds in one of the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being; on the other hand, to be loved beca
20、use of ones merit, because one deserves it, always leaves doubt: maybe I did not please the person whom I want to love me, maybe this or that-there is always a fear that love could disappear. Furthermore, deserved love easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for oneself, that one is lov
21、ed only because one pleases, that one is, in the last analysis, not loved at all but used. No wonder that we all cling to the longing for motherly love, as children and also as adults. The relationship to father is quite different. Mother is the home we come from, she is nature, soil, the ocean; fat
22、her does not represent any such natural home. He has little connection with the child in the first years of his life, and his importance for the child in this early period cannot be compared with that of mother. But while father does not represent the natural world, he represents the other pole of h
23、uman existence; the world of thought, of man-made things, of law and order, of discipline, of travel and adventure. Father is the one who teaches the child, who shows him the road into the world. Fatherly love is conditional love. Its principle is 1 love you because you fulfill my expectations, beca
24、use you do your duty, because you are like me. In conditional fatherly love we find, as with unconditional motherly love, a negative and a positive aspect. The negative aspect is the very fact that fatherly love has to be deserved, that it can be lost if one does not do what is expected.The positive
25、 side is equally important. Since his love is conditional, I can do something to acquire it, I can work for it; his love is not outside of my control as motherly love is.母爱和父爱母爱的天性是无条件的。母亲爱她的新生婴儿，因为那是她的孩子，而不是因为这个小孩符合了什么特别的条件，也不是因为孩子达到了她的某种特别的期望。无条件的爱符合不只是小孩子，而且是每个人最深切的渴望。另一方面，如果因为自己的优点，因为自己值得爱而被别人爱，
26、我们总会心存疑虑：可能我没有使那个我希望他(她)爱我的人满意吧?可能这个，可能那个总是害怕那份爱会消失。而且“值得的”爱很容易令人产生一种辛酸的感觉：似乎一个人不是因为自身而被爱，而是因为自己可以令别人高兴，令别人满足才被爱，似乎自己根本不是被爱而是被利用了。无怪乎我们全都依恋、渴望着母爱，不论小孩还是成年人都如此。孩子同父亲的关系就完全不同了。母亲是我们的发源地，她是自然、是土壤、是海洋；父亲不代表任何这些自然的归宿。在孩子初生的前几年中，父亲和孩子接触很少。在此期间，对于孩子来说，父亲的重要性远远比不上母亲。但是，虽然父亲不代表这自然的世界，他却代表了人类存在的另一极思想的世界、人造的世界
27、、法律和秩序的世界、纪律的世界、旅行和冒险的世界。教育孩子的人是父亲，向孩子展示通向世界之路的人也是父亲。父爱是有条件的。它的原则是：“因为你达到了我的期望，因为你完成了你的职责，因为你像我，所以我爱你。”在有条件的父爱中，我们(像在无条件的母爱中一样)发现它既有消极的一面，又有积极的一面。消极的一面是父爱的给予只在你值得得到爱的条件下，而且如果你没有做到他所期望的事，你可能会失去这份爱。积极的一面也同样重要。既然他的爱是有条件的，我可以采取一些办法去获取它，我可以为之而努力；他的爱像母爱一样，并没有越出我的控制力LOVEI love you not because of who you ar
28、e, but because of who I am when I am with you. 我爱你，不是因为你是一个怎样的人，而是因为我喜欢与你在一起时的感觉。 2) No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, wont make you cry. 没有人值得你流泪，值得让你这么做的人不会让你哭泣。 3) The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you cant have them. 失去某人，最糟糕的莫过于，他近在身
29、旁，却犹如远在天边。 4) Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 纵然伤心，也不要愁眉不展，因为你不知是谁会爱上你的笑容。 5) To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. 对于世界而言，你是一个人；但是对于某个人，你是他的整个世界。 6) Dont waste your time on a man/woman, who isnt
30、 willing to waste their time on you. 不要为那些不愿在你身上花费时间的人而浪费你的时间。 7) Just because someone doesnt love you the way you want them to, doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have. 爱你的人如果没有按你所希望的方式来爱你，那并不代表他们没有全心全意地爱你。 8) Dont try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to. 不要着急，最好的总
31、会在最不经意的时候出现。 9) Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful. 在遇到梦中人之前，上天也许会安排我们先遇到别的人；在我们终于遇见心仪的人时，便应当心存感激。 10) Dont cry because it is over, smile because it happened. 不要因为结束而哭泣，微笑吧，为你的曾经拥有Three
32、passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind. These passions, like great winds, have blown me hither and thither, in a wayward course, over a deep ocean of anguish, reaching to the
33、very verge of despair. I have sought love, first, because it brings ecstasy ecstasy so great that I would often have sacrificed all the rest of life for a few hours of this joy. I have sought it, next, because it relieves loneliness-that terrible loneliness in which one shivering consciousness looks
34、 over the rim of the world into the cold unfathomable lifeless abyss. I have sought it, finally, because in the union of love I have seen, in a mystic miniature, the prefiguring vision of the heaven that saints and poets have imagined. This is what I sought, and though it might seem too good for hum
35、an life, this is what- at last- I have found.With equal passion I have sought knowledge. I have wished to understand the hearts of men. I have tried to apprehend the Pythagorean power by which number holds sway above the flu. A little of this, but not much, I have achieved.Love and knowledge, so far
36、 as they were possible, led upward toward the heavens. But always pity brought me back to earth. Echoes of cries of pain reverberate in my heart. Children in famine, victims tortured by oppressors, helpless old people a hated burden to their sons, and the whole world of loneliness, poverty, and pain
37、 make a mockery of what human life should be. I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot, and I too suffer.This has been my life. I have found it worth living, and would gladly live it again if the chance were offered me.三种激情 -罗素三种激情虽然简单，却异常强烈，它们统治着我的生命，那便是：对爱的渴望，对知识的追求，以及对人类苦难的难以承受的同情。这三种激情像变化莫测的狂风
38、任意地把我刮来刮去，把我刮入痛苦的深海，到了绝望的边缘。我曾经寻找爱，首先是因为它能使我欣喜若狂这种喜悦之情如此强烈，使我常常宁愿为这几个小时的愉悦而牺牲生命中的其他一切。我寻求爱，其次是因为爱能解除孤独在这种可怕的孤独中，一颗颤抖的良心在世界的边缘，注视着下面冰凉、毫无生气、望不见底的深渊。我寻求爱还因为在爱的融合中，我能以某种神秘的图像看到曾被圣人和诗人想象过的天堂里未来的景象。这就是我所追求的东西，虽然这似乎对于人类的生命来说过于完美，但这确实是我最终发现的东西。 我怀着同样的激情去寻找知识，我曾渴望着理解人心，我曾渴望知道为何星星会闪烁，我还企图弄懂毕达哥拉斯所谓的用数字控制变化的力量
39、，但在这方面，我只知道一点点。爱的力量和知识的力量引我接近天堂，但同情之心往往又把我拉回大地。痛苦的哭泣回响、震荡在我的心中。饥饿的儿童，被压迫、受折磨的人们，成为儿孙们讨厌的包袱的、无助的老人们，充斥着整个世界的孤独的气氛，贫穷和苦难，所有这一切都是对人类生活原本该具有的样子所作的讽刺。我渴望消除一切邪恶，但我办不到，因为我自己也处于苦难之中。 这就是我的生活，我认为值得一过。而且，如果有第二次机会，我将乐意地再过一次。奥哈拉给女儿的信 这是奥哈拉写给女儿的一封信。女儿将从中学毕业，这就意味着她将不再是小孩了。在这人生关键时刻，作为父亲，他既对女儿过去的表现表示满意，也对女儿的将来充满信心。
40、然而，他却不忘再次重复自己对女儿立身行事的一句忠告：真诚地对待自己。这是要求女儿具有自信、自助、自律、自尊、自爱的品质。这句话显然是作者丰富的生活阅历和人生经验的总结，也是对女儿的谆谆教诲，赋予思想一种真切动人的感情力量。虽然信是写给予自己女儿的，但是这句忠告却具有普遍性的教育意义，是天下父母对子女的最真挚的希望。作者的语言温馨自然，平和亲切，看似叙述家常，却在平常中显示了令人惊叹的智慧，又让人产生一心的感觉。John Ohara to His Daughter TLS,1 p.Mrs. DoughtyQuogue, Long Island16 September 1962, Sunday M
41、y dear:Well, here we are but not here. You at St. Tims, Sister in Princeton, and me in Quogue, and another brand new year is about to start for you. For me, too. I always seem to approach the autumn in the frame of mind that spring induces in most people. The excitement of new things; the new plays,
42、 the new books, new clothes, etc., etc., etc. At the same time the autumn for me is a season of a sweet melancholy that is hard to explain. I love the early evenings, the leaves burning, the lights in houses. It is the beginning of a big year for you, in many respects your biggest so far. By the tim
43、e June comes around you will be 18, and graduating from school. In the past week or so I have called you “Kid” but subconsciously I have been doing that because your kid days are over, or just about. I suspect that you are going through the experience of first love, and no matter what else happens,
44、after that experience you are never a kid again. Most of the nice things we associate with being a kid are okay while you are still kid. But you gain more than you lose. You gain in understanding standing, in appreciation of people, in understanding and appreciation of yourself. You begin to see the
45、 wisdom in that quotation I have so often repeated to you: to thine own self be true. Every year at this time I have repeated that quotation to you, and the time is not really too far distant when you will be passing it on to your own children. It is probably the best single piece of advice I can gi
46、ve you, or you can give them. You have done well, and I am pleased with you, not only for what you have done, but for what you are. As Miss Finnegan said to Sister, “Wylie has the right reactions.” So good luck in your Senior Year, and always know that the oldman loves you very muchAlwaysDadMother &
47、 Child It was Christmas 1961. I was teaching in a small town in Ohio where my twenty-seven third graders eagerly anticipated the great day of gifts giving.妈妈与孩子 那是1961年的圣诞节。我在俄亥俄州的一个小镇上教小学三年级。班上27个孩子都在积极参加礼物赠送日的活动。A tree covered with tinsel and gaudy paper chains graced one corner. In another rested
48、 a manger scene produced from cardboard and poster paints by chubby, and sometimes grubby, hands. Someone had brought a doll and placed it on the straw in the cardboard box that served as the manger. It didnt matter that you could pull a string and hear the blue-eyed, golden-haired dolly say, My name is Susie. But Jesus was a boy baby! one of the boys proclaimed. Nonetheless, Susie stayed. 教室的一角被一棵树装点得熠熠生辉，树上缀满了金银丝帛和华丽的彩纸。教室的另一角是一个涂着海报油彩由纸板制成的马槽，这出自孩子们那胖乎乎、脏兮兮的小手。有人带来了一个娃娃，把它放在纸板槽里的稻草上(假装小耶稣)。只要拉拉它身上的一条细绳，这个蓝眼睛、金发的娃娃就会说道，我叫苏西，不过这都没有关系。一个男孩提出：
