中美现代婚礼的差异【毕业论文】.doc

1、（20_届）本科毕业设计英语中美现代婚礼的差异THEDIFFERENCESOFMODERNWEDDINGBETWEENCHINAANDAMERICA摘要随着中美两国人民之间的交流，两国的文化也开始频繁地交流起来。随着感情的深入，爱情也随之产生。现在，有越来越多的国际婚姻。因为婚礼习俗也是一个国家中民族的文化体现，所以两国都有各自的文化，各自都有关于婚礼的不同习俗。两个国家的人也许会在同一件事物上存在着一些争论。比如，婚礼时婚纱是什么颜色的在哪里举办婚宴本文将从三个方面，婚纱、婚礼上的礼节、婚宴，介绍中美现代婚礼的不同之处，以此帮助新人避免文化间的差异所带来的不愉快。关键词婚礼；婚纱；礼节；婚宴

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13、FREQUENTLYWITHTHEEMOTIONPENETRATING,THELOVEHASHAPPENEDNOWADAYS,THEREAREMOREANDMOREINTERNATIONALMARRIAGESCUSTOMSISAKINDOFUSUAL,GENERALLYACCEPTEDANDLONGESTABLISHEDWAYOFBEHAVINGORDOINGTHINGSITISONEOFTHEIMPORTANTPARTSOFCULTURESANDITSESSENCEISCULTUREMANYUNSUCCESSFULINTERCULTURALCOMMUNICATIONSLIEINTHEIGNO

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23、WECANTRYOURBESTTOFINDAWAYWHICHCANREACHTHEHALFWAYTHENTHECOMMUNICATIONBETWEENTWOCOUNTRIESWILLCONTINUEFOREVER,ANDBECOMEBETTERANDBETTER2THEDIFFERENCESOFTHEBRIDESWEDDINGDRESSTHEWEDDINGISTHEMOSTIMPORTANTMOMENTOFTHELIFEEVERYCOUPLEMUSTDRESSTHEMOSTBEAUTIFULWEDDINGCLOTHESEVERYBRIDEWANTSTHATEVERYTHINGISPERFECT

24、ANDISTHESAMEASTHEDREAMSHEONCEHADTHEDAYOFTHEWEDDINGISTHEIRHAPPIESTANDMOSTUNFORGETTABLEDAYBECAUSEOFTHEDIFFERENTCULTURES,THEREAREDIFFERENTATTIREANDJEWELRYREPRESENTINTHEWEDDING21THECHINESEBRIDESWEDDINGDRESSINCHINA,REDCANNOTBESEPARATEDWITHTHEJUBILANTDAY,LIKETHEWEDDINGDAYRED,SYMBOLICOFJOY,FEATUREDPROMINEN

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